What's Your Love Language?

Last night Bill and I set down to do a school assignment for class at BYU-I.  The object was to communicate!  For the assignment we were both to write down 5 concerns or thoughts regarding our marriage going forward.  After we both wrote down the five, we compared which concerns were similar and talked about them....then we talked about the concerns that were different.  This really opened up our eyes into how each other felt, we were taking to time to listen, no one was being "attacked."  We both felt we got a lot out of the assignment and made a commitment to do that at least once a month.  I urge every couple to do the same.

That got me think of love languages.  The 5 Love Languages books is pretty popular.  It is based on the idea that people speak different love languages.  The love languages are broken down into categories such as physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts and quality time.  Your love language may be words of affirmation and quality time, but your partners quality time may be physical touch and receiving gifts.  See what a mess that can make if you both don't speak the same love language.  But according to Dr. Gary Chapman, you don't have to.  You just need to learn each other's love language.

l. Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Thanks for
taking out the garbage.” Not – “It’s about time you took the garbage out. The
flies were going to carry it out for you.”

2. Gifts – a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”

3. Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.

4. Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
listening.

5. Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all
expressions of love.

You can log onto the 5 Love Languages website to take a quiz to find out your own love language!!
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